Wednesday, January 4, 2017

Slap The Man Who Gropes!

I promulgate safety and precautions during personal revelry. I advocate sanity over recklessness.

That is not to say I do not care about women!

My blood boils then when I see and hear about groping and grabbing and pinching of girls. Not only strangers but even familiar folks do it.

The advice I have given to girls who have been my students (I am a teacher from last two decades) is...

*Do not shrivel in the corner, trembling!

*Do not sigh while cluck clucking over the molestation.

*Do not be all teary eyed at the doom and gloom "Abla naari syndrome"!

Then you shall ask "What shall we do? It is the upbringing to blame of our boys."

Society failed!

Indeed...

Think for a moment about Savitri Bai Phule's plight who was openly condemned, criticised and abused back in the 1800s! She was fighting for a noble cause. Did she have a screeching media at her disposal screaming "Hail women!"

Was Society any better, then?

They did not even consider women humans back then! Did Savitribai even expect anyone to change overnight?

Here is what she did.

She carried right through with what she thought was right!

We are today's women, then.. Lot more supported, educated and equipped!

Let us look into the eye of the perpetrator and holler "No" with all our mights!

Let us teach our girls to be not shrinking violets.

Let us teach them to give right back.

Let us Be the change.

Why be quiet the first time?

Even if a pinch or grab comes in, use your sandals, bags, umbrella or whatever you have and hammer!

Others will join the party!

Ask "What?" instead of retreating into a corner!

Return that stare for a stare instead of "Jaane do?

Let us begin #SlapTheManWhoGropes-  wherever, whenever...Get the Girl power out on the front. Now is the time.

Get up and give back!

Enough you waited for Mindsets to change!

Enough you waited for some system to protect!

Enough you found upbringings at fault!

SLAP THE MAN WHO SO MUCH AS LOOKS WITH LECHEROUS INTENTS.

Let's make it a norm, not an exception.

Use the voice, the weaponry in your arsenal.. More so, throw away the endurance and tolerance.

Why wait?

Start this moment while you stand at the bus stop, railway station, office, park or street while walking home.

Courage is what you draw out and molestation what you annihilate!

Will you?

                                   -Sonnal Pardiwala.

Tuesday, January 3, 2017

Bengaluru Chaos- A Lesson in Personal Responsibility

It was with great shock, I viewed the pictures doing the rounds of media on the mess that was created on the streets of Bengaluru. It was claimed that there were 1500 policemen and yet, many girls were molested!

Media had a field day on pronouncing it as the state's failure.

Police department blamed for its inefficiency.

Debates took place on Facebook, Twitter and outfits working on women issues slammed it as violation of Girl's modesty and infringement of their rights.

Great... It is so fashionable to blame Men and their mindsets.Portray women in victim mode and helpless. So convenient! Nowhere does the blog justify Molestation or condemn women out in public spaces at any hour. She is returning from work, she deserves a dignified passage to home! 
However, we must also look into the mob that created chaos on the streets of Bengaluru. Are women and men alike not "The Citizens"  of country who must uphold the Discipline and Law of the country. 
Time to take few Inclusive thoughts on this.

In battling Misogyny, let us not go creating Misandry.

It was a New Year Eve. People were happy 
and in a mood for frolic. Each wearing what they want. Each choosing the beverage they want. The question is,

"Why were they on the streets?" A stampede could have killed them. 


When we have a wedding, we choose a wedding hall!

When we have a religious ceremony, we have building premises!

Each celebration has a designated place. Why is there a need to get it out on the streets?

A mob is the most insensitive ground that breeds unruly behaviour. Responsibilities distribute. Accountability vanishes. Inhibitions are shed.

Now, why make this a gender inequality issue?

Why blame public servants who are human, ill equipped to deal with huge numbers of people, not in full control of themselves?

Why take this matter into the 'equal rights' debate?

The fact, that girls and boys both were on the streets, means, they were exercising their rights.

A bigger question is, why? To both?
Weren't there enough pubs or establishments to have fun to begin with?
As a woman, I never wear or wore purdah, neither a Burkha nor Ghunghat!

Pepper spray???

I do not know where to buy it.
I do not earn enough to afford a bodyguard. A beer or a whisky, yes!
Martial arts.. I learned out of hobby in my twenties.

But I have not been once molested, if you overlook the pinch and grab on railway stations.

If ever a guy acted smart I used my sandals or my verbal weapons.

Over the years I did realise that "being safe is an option not to be confused with rights."
I have a perfectly fun loving family and we have tons of fun. We however keep to our boundaries. We have chosen places which we have checked for safety and prestige.
One gets confused with an unruly mob and slanting it to equality and gender issues. 

Questions you should ask:

1) What is the correct way to celebrate something? Why Holi does need balloons thrown on streets, Diwali to be strewn with crackers, why New Year on the streets?

2) Does Bengaluru or any other city not have proper building compounds, terraces, hotel premises throwing "New Year Bash" for its citizens to bring in the New Year?

3) What exactly should a policeman do when they will be blamed either for not protecting the girls or bashing up the men?

4) Supposing something barbaric happens, how do you reverse it?

5) When none will protect, we women of India, should we not take kinder measures?

6) Am I modern only if I scream, dance and drink on the streets (regardless of being a male or female)?

7) Even parking slots refuse to take ownership of your car even if you pay parking charges! We install buzzer alarms to alert! Then why sounding some much needed alerts on "personal safety"  looked down upon?

8) Will I receive some protection, if I spew out anti men slogans and scream "women rights", from anyone?

Did what happen in Bengaluru a gender issue or a misplaced sense of fun and revelry?

Are roads made for dancing balls in an inebriated state by anyone or are they convenient means to travel from one place to another?

When you go out on the street, you have an incumbent risk.

You may meet with an accident... So there are footpaths erected, zebra crossings created.

You may slip on the road for it is wet!
Will you then blame the road because it is wet?

Precautions and rights are different things.
I have a right of being on the roads, yes.. I can take the precaution to walk sensibly and not run wild in the face of traffic. 

In the same way, if I know I am slightly tipsy and others are likely to be tipsier than me, it is best I stick to familiar people and familiar environs. Why walk into unfamiliar arenas and expect completely unrelated people, (men ill - mannered and hiding behind mob anonymity)  to show decency? It is the ideal expected but rarely fulfilled.

The fact that foreign beaches do not have molestation reports is not proof enough for various reasons

*Each one of them has culturally learned to mind their own business... Our country is yet to learn this basic ethic.

*Molestation might have happened but the reports have not reached us!

Media loves to sensationalise and create news out of everything.

If I have to teach my offspring something I would go with decency in thoughts and deed, saner philosophy on celebrations and safer strategies of self preservation.

If they must party, why not in a place where security and accountability measures are firmly placed? Street is for walking not partying! 31st night or any other night.

Be safe, walking out on streets drunk only gets you foggy heads the next day, not a Happy New Year!
                                 -SONNAL PARDIWALA

Thursday, December 29, 2016

Deodorise and Disinfect - The Natural Way!


9 Ways To Use Aroma Oils For A Healthier Lifestyle


Cleanliness is every mother's top concern. Hygiene, a super priority! Bacterial presence in the air or water- a mom's dreaded hazard. We invest precious monies to accumulate the right disinfectants, toiletries and medicines to deal with it. Now we are told that our detergents, shampoos, deodorants, disinfectants, dishwashers have chemicals that gently erode our immune systems. 

In that case, what shall we do to contribute to "Go Organic"  movement? 

Here I share few tips on using a natural multi purpose and uncontaminated ingredient. 

Nature has imparted us with lots, all we need to do is use it. 
Essential Oils, popularly known as aroma oils are fantastic aid to home help and keep the environment at home hygienic and fragrant. Do throw away the air fresheners that are adding to Mother Earth's pollution. 

Generally, when we think Aroma oils, we think only 'massage', but they can be applied in various situations. 

What are they?
Essential oils are concentrated liquids distilled from various parts of the plants (Root, bark, leaves, flowers). Therapeutic use is a different science but we can use in everyday situations at home. 

Every oil has antiseptic, anti-inflammatory, disinfectant, analgesic property. 

Where do you get them?

Nearby beauty shops or online. Available in 10/15 ml quantity.
How to use them?

      1) Cleaning and Mopping floors. 


In a bucket of water, add 6-10 drops of any or combination of oils
  • Pine
  • Lavender
  • Orange
  • Lemon

Wash the floor with running water or mop it with oil infused water. 

The fragrance will calm and soothe your nerves and lend a cleaner than thou feel. It lingers for a long time.

      2) Bath Waters

Want to beat a tired day? Have aching and frazzled muscles? Feel depressed and down? Add to your bath water the following oils either one or in combination:
  • Lavender (5-6 drops) 
  • Rosemary (3-5 drops) 
  • Pepper mint (3-5 drops) 
  • Bergamot (3-5 drops) 
Bathing with the refreshing aromas will rejuvenate you and leave your bath space feeling like a Spa.

      3) Disinfectant Spray

Take a small bottle spray. Add 50 ml water and to it add (5-6  drops) of following oils:
  • Lavender
  • Tea tree
  • Rosemary
These three oils kill air borne bacteria. Spray it in all the rooms twice a day. Specially if there has been an incidence of cold and flu and sneezing sprees.


      4) Insect Bites

If a rash is developing post an insect bite take a little raw oil in the pinch of your finger and thumb and apply on the itching area. 

Itching will subside in no time. Swelling too will dissipate.

      5) Mosquito Repellent

Take 5 ml almond or coconut base oil and add 10/12 drops of citronella oil. Apply on the skin before sleeping or going outdoors. It keeps mosquitoes away and allergies too. It induces good sleep.

      6) Deodorize Cupboards. 

Sprinkle any essential oil you have on a tissue paper. Keep this near the stack of your ironed clothes. 

Keep a tissue rolled which is oil infused near a dustbin area, shoe rack and places which will need deodorizing.

      7) A Goodnight's Sleep. 

Before sleeping, sprinkle few drops of Lavender under the pillow. It will relax nerves and induce peaceful sleep.

      8) Massage
Make a therapeutic mix of base oil (Almond, Coconut, Jojoba and any oil of your choice). 

It can be safely used on children. Personal experience! Both my sons have grown up with massages and infusions of this oil. 

      9) It is a deeper science, however a general list is given for various ailments. 
  1. Headaches and sleep issues- Lavender, Rosemary, Peppermint.
  2. Coughs, colds, flu, breathing issues- Chamomile, Lavender, Tea Tree, Lemon Grass, Frankincense, Basil. 
  3. Digestion issues- Geranium, Carrot Seed, Lavender. 
  4. Pain in any area-Lavender, Marjoram, Rosewood. 
Gently massage the mixture on the affected area and let the person relax. You will notice a sound sleep pattern, relaxing of nerves and reduction in pain. 

These are not to be taken as absolute medical care methods but as alternatives and remedies in conjunction with medical care. 

It will be our bit to replacing polluted elements with natural stuff. You may get addicted to its earthy aromas and gentler all encompassing relaxed effects. 

-Sonnal Pardiwala

Monday, December 26, 2016

Dangal - Refreshing And Exhilarating!


Profound wisdom emanates from simpler moments of life, when one halts for a moment and changes perspective. So says a 14-year old bride to the disgruntled daughters of Mahavir Singh Phogat. "Your father at least takes an interest in you. He accepts your existence and is striving to give your life a shape worthy enough of dignity."

That is enough to awaken in the daughters a renewed zeal to give in to the drill and agonizingly disciplined regime their father has set for them. 

Indian Cinema needed this 'Dangal' for so many reasons!
We will digress for a while but well, I am inundated with so many...So many thoughts that each reason can make a blog post.

The Indian male protagonist is so self-centred to date that very rarely we see him, allowing himself to look anything less than perfect. He always wants to be in command and if possible every frame right till the end. His real age notwithstanding, he is an epitome of eternal youth. He has to romance beauties half his age. He has to win and if he cannot he will use his progeny to break his bones to near death (Apne, remember?)
There are long drawn guilt trips for the poor unsuspecting progeny and ultimately a grander end. 

Cut to Dangal

We have a National Wrestling Champion, mired in financial difficulties living with a regret filled silence. Regret of not able to continue his wrestling journey and not getting a gold at an international level. His desire, "my son will continue my legacy!", squashed as he had four girls. 

There are no loud complaints and neither ignoring his girls. In fact he says "I love them but they cannot fulfill my wish."  A silent acceptance of fate as he puts away all his medals. Did I forget to tell you, it was, and is Aamir Khan?


Ohhh... Not intentional but just to make that point. He has clean changed the definition of what a mainstream 'hero' is. The silent, pigheaded, doggedly determined father who let criticism simply go unaffected. I had to remind myself, it is Aamir Khan who was Mahavir Singh Phogat

Shahrukh Khan and Salman Khan ought to actually take a leaf out of his book and well, just take a cue!

Aamir Khan as Mahavir Singh Phogat is so adorable in this big paunch and haryaanvi dialect. He did not feel the need to add a scene to educate the mass on procreation behind the curtains kinda thing. There is a very simple equation with his wife, Daya Kaur played by Sakshi Tanwar, "I don't understand your decisions but..."  and he requests "Ek saal de de munne...

No barbaric abuse or dogged domination. A fair relationship that has accepted a gender given societal roles. 

Wife obeys, husband decides.
Aamir dominates the screen as the father with an ambition... Father with a Vision... Father with an iron hand at discipline... Father who is willing to change perspectives... I too wish to say "Kaash ye mere Pappa hote...

Another reason why Indian Cinema needed this Dangal 
It is a Dangal of sorts for perspective of the girl & boy paradigms. What they can or cannot do! What we think 'they can or cannot do'!  Again from deeper disappointment and little moments, a mindset changes in a father who is living in a very orthodox, rural set up. 

A man who goes about declaring "Pehelwaani khoon me hoti hai..." is willing to do a gleeful roundabout on his pehelwaan  girls. 

He is still in his stereotype zone when he hits his nephew for hitting boys when few mangled kids stand in complaint. The glee on his face when he asks his girls, "Kaise maara?" is priceless. That is the moment of a mindset change that creates history. A perspective that begins questioning "A Gold medal can be brought by Girls, too!"  A perspective which erodes each societal norm one by one at the razor of 'what is possible"  "what is achievable"  A perspective that holds out hope to fulfill a long held dream.

 Those moments are now priceless for me. I wish my parents would have had a chat of this nature... When I stood on the threshold of adulthood and fought to continue studies post graduation. I did have my way but not without arguments and heartache. Reason: "A Groom that educated will be scarce." Well... 

This moment when the father decides to enroll his girls in his stricter course in wrestling, they have no clue... But the girl in me so rejoiced at the turnabout of a Dad to prepare his girls for a robust future with full faith that they can. They were his girls. 

'Pehelwaani' unke khoon me se!! Indeed. 

Steadfastly he began dealing with every and any impediment cited by his wife or girls... Even if to sometimes just escape. The perspective shift is so apparent in every scene that shreds misogyny to pieces. Sometimes the reasons made into excuses by the very same girls who would cry foul when growing up and asking for liberation.

"We cannot run in salwaar kameez!" it is not only the rant of those two girls but also so many in the nation. 

He silently asks his nephew's clothes and hands over to his wife to alter them to suit the girls. Wife, though aghast and confused does as bid. 


No prolonged arguments or heavy duty dialogues. 

"Our hair become filthy and we are facing trouble!" So they complain... 

So he decides, "Chop 'em off!" much to the chagrin and embarrassment of the girls who meant it as an excuse.


For the determined and ambition consumed father, it was... 

Whatever comes in the way of them focusing, will be simply terminated!
The very tenets of misogyny questioned in an eloquent way.
Should the raiment or Curls determine someone's worth or do we get overly attached to these external standards and judgments? 

Remove their strict adherence, strip the long held beliefs and ask "How are then girls or boys any different in spirit?

I have seen Mary Kom and Saala Khadoos. What left a bitter taste was the rough edge to the coaching highlights.
In pointing out the hard work, there was a tendency to overdo and dramatize to the point of making it sound unrealistic. Then it made one feel, only those who are made of steel or a different material may be capable. Not me or you or my children or yours. 

Indian Cinema needs Dangal to Demonstrate how from scratch, a sportsperson is molded out of sheer diligence and vision.

The girls in question did not even know for what were they being trained! 

Another endearing aspect of this pigheaded dad was his inability to get into long drawn educational or preachy monologues. Simply "This needs to be done!" , "This needs to be done this way..."

This is the obstacle... We'll get rid of it or rise above it.. Making the girls sing "Sehat ke liye Baapu Haanikarak he...
The "Paanch baje taiyaar rehna!" coming as a warning knell on the Girls. 

To fight he brings in his nephew in front of his girls...who are hell bent on sabotaging his every efforts. The import of their father's vision plain escapes these simpletons. 

Awareness dawns again in the most misogynistic situation of a child marriage. The very marriage ceremony of their friend they so happily scamper to. Against their father's wishes, they romp and rave oblivious of the hurt, despair & disappointment so vividly written on the bride's face.

 The girls complains finds a counter argument in the bride to be. "I so wish he was my father, he acknowledges your existence atleast, thinks about you. Else for a father a girl is only a burden to be married at the earliest." 

Both the girls find their existential purpose in that vulnerable moment of despair from the girl who knows her identity is off to be vanquished and she will be a machine henceforth to churn out kids and run the household impeccably...No more... 

That is the Dangal adorable quotient of a mindset shift... From one Girl to another Girl. My Destiny could be different if there was a father like yours "Value it!

Value they did...Surrendering now to the mold and discipline of their father's regime head on. 


Father too ups the challenge by getting them to compete with males. An unheard of faith. A faith of a Father nevertheless!
He eggs them on to join a tournament where they are underweight... Encourages in every round. No word of criticism ever uttered even if a round is lost. Only wisdom accrued over the years.

"She is overcoming the fear." He empathizes with their woes and enters quietly to soothe their aching muscles. It is the 'Dangal' of 'Guru' who has to push them further and 'Father'  who feels their pain. 

It is his faith and steady encouragement that brought them so far. A lesson his elder one learns the hard way. The later part of the movie sees the 'Dangal' of will, technique and discipline. It also raises question on our Sports Department system which lacks the inimitable will and zeal for the players they train. 

"Get me medals!", who gets it, does not matter? 

You are training 'humans' for God's sake! 

When a player loses a round, instead of boosting up their morale, there is derision and deprecation. 

No wonder India loses out on 'winners' zone! When coaches have no faith, where will the players borrow it from?
That is succinctly displayed in the short zone when the daughter moves to NSA for international training and is introduced to temptations. 


The Growing of hair or using nail paints or eating golgappa hitherto forbidden may bring in a sense of liberation but took away the steely edge from her disposition that was carefully inculcated by a Father who had been through the rigour and knew what it entailed. 

She came in the village with new know-how and dueled with her mentor to defeat him. Maybe it was her rebellious angst all those years...but the younger daughter echoes "He lost out of weakness not technique..."  so began the distance and downfall of Geeta (played by Fatima Sana Shaikh) who lost all international tournaments and Babita (played by Sanya Malhotra) who won her national championship. 

The difference being the rock solid force by her side. He knew their strengths and built on it. The coach focused on Geeta's weaknesses and destroyed her will. Their Father's gift was the fiery steely determination and the steadfast support which the elder Geeta realised as her laissez-faire liberated attitude faced turmoil soon. A debate may arise on liberation and discipline. A Dangal on was the father correct in instilling or imposing his ways on his unsuspecting daughters to meet his ambitious goals. His tender girls sure toughened up and created History for the nation! Does the end justify the means? 

All I would add is when you do not have your own dreams, might as well embrace another one's who directs and channelizes the Persona into someone worthwhile to Reckon with. He did make them a force to look up to! So an angry Geeta leaves her father 's stringent domain to enjoy her liberated one, to learn a valuable lesson. When we chart out on special journeys, the vision of the mentor counts. He had not cut their curls out of some male dominance. It was a well planned construct to keep their obstacles at bay and aid their work out progress. 

Series of defeats and Babita's presence binds the gap and gets the father to again take up six month old coaching of his girl. He finds ways to review her performance and restore her confidence. A confidence echoed by the younger sister "I do not know the girl who lost. I know the girl who fought boys and emerged a winner. She was underweight and yet pounded her opponents!"  In that depressed moment comes the realization of what their father's presence entailed. A confidence ingrained by the father in her Girl, who knows not to accept defeat or defect casually. Defeat needed ruthless review and more practice. Defects and lack to be improvised. 

If they cannot be accepted in the akhaada, he makes one...!
If he cannot get a leave, he leaves his job...! Again deeply entrenched misogyny spelled out loud and clear in the derisive words of the employer "If it was your daughter's wedding I would consider... For Wrestling practice, no way!"  

So progressive our society is! So considerate! Yes read deep sarcasm! 

He needs funds to make a mat for their practice, but is the sports personnel willing to forward the funds? For Girls wrestling??? Are you kidding??? 

Again compelling wisdom comes in casual conversations,when his brother asks "Ye mat ke se?
He says "Gadde jese...

Brother quips "Gadde te gadde se na bhaisaab!"

Then forms the improvisation of mats on terrace for practice.
Our winners make history despite the drawbacks... Not in spite... 

The final match was a treat. The Dangal between sure confidence of a father and insecurity of the coach was worth pondering over. It brings questions to fore when father indignantly gives it to the coach "You are asking Sehwag to be Dravid..." Instead of her strengths, you are looking elsewhere  His tearful declaration to the panel is "I have dreamed of my daughters getting a Gold for the country." is so heart rending. 

This is Aamir Khan... I do forget to mention him as he was all of that Haryaanvi jat for me for those two odd hours. He was graceful to not be in the climax scene and give it to the young talent to carry it off. The Culmination of his training of all years. 


Neither did Shahrukh Khan in Chak De allow that nor R Madhavan in Saala Khadoos. The Mary Kom angle of the child's surgery was over stretched. 

Nasty coach gets the dad locked who waits helplessly after initial attempts. 

But he is with her in spirit...With his words. Look into the eyes of the opponent...Always look for their weak moments...Rainbow loop... Which she used to combat and win the tournament. 

Here he knows of the victorious moment by the Anthem being played. 

I did not want this movie to end. It had to! IN THAT CASE I will have to see it at least five to six times to 

*Catch the Haryaanvi dialect and interactions of daughter and father.

The younger girls were so so endearing in their bewilderment, in their innocent rebellions! 

*Watch the supporting cousin who begins with false sense of male supremacy but resignedly and good naturedly accepts that 'he is the Good luck'  factor. 

*Catch the super exciting matches of the girls, 
Geeta and Babita who worked hard to achieve their picture perfect toned bodies to reflect embodiment of athletic refinement. Both the girls have stupendously hijacked the Canvas of Dangal to bring alive a possibility. A role model for this Generation to emulate. One life we have to hone it and honor it. The ends justify the means I guess. 

*See Aamir Khan. Tell myself this transformed man is indeed the Aamir of Andaaz Apna Apna or Hum Hai Raahi Pyaar Ke...

He once sang "Papa kehte the bada naam karega, beta humaara aisa kaam karega."  

He truly has done 'aisa kaam' to  be proud of and he himself portrayed the Papa...Who made it possible to change the lyrics a bit "Beti humaari esa naam karegi.
"
  
Kudos to a Movie that might go on to become a classic for us like his 'Taare Zameen Par' and '3 Idiots'.

A grounded effort par Excellence...He was not making a Documentary for God's Sake!  (for all those who feel criticizing him is a mandatory need for their evolution) 

INDIAN CINEMA NEEDED DANGAL... for so many reasons and more... We need more of it... 

For Indian movies should move out of thinking only domestic violence and marital abuse and rapes are maladies that women go through! 

Indian movies must stop thinking that a woman is attractive only when she sways her hips in less clothing...

Indian movies must stop thinking that a man has to have six pack abs and is needed always to rescue a woman from dire circumstances in the form of a father or husband. 

Indian movies must stop thinking giving up career for a man is the ultimate sacrifice and aim of a woman. 

Indian movies must believe mature stories can be told of Father's faith...
Daughter's striving and bringing home glory.
Indian movies must believe that stereotype does not have to be nurtured but challenged...Gently, silently, effectively and eloquently... Without tons of drama! 

The writer deserves a bow... the Director a Salute!... And Aamir Khan a squealing bear hug! 

Too old to say "Kaash vo mere pappa hote!"  but a cute father he portrayed. For those two hours I lived a different life and shall want to soak in again... Another five times perhaps...

Cast and Crew of 'Dangal' you are permanently etched and inscribed into my psyche! Love and loads and loads of it!

-Sonnal Pardiwala

Saturday, December 17, 2016

The Child In Us Never Ceases To Be!

#BigBazaarKidsCarnival 


The most significant possession of a child is, a toy! An insatiable need for toys! The more one has, the more one wants...one more...one more...and ever more! 




Big Bazaar's Kiddie Club has geared up to meet this ever accelerating inner quest of kids for Toys and Activities through its #KidsCarnival2016 starting from 10th December 2016 till 8th January 2016.


Big Bazaar is a trusted flagship hypermarket retail chain from Future Group. It has its presence in over 100 cities. It has a motto of 'Making India Beautiful.


With its high quality products made available at affordable prices, it is a dream store to walk into for each member of the family. It is a one-stop shopping paradise for the entire family. And easy on the budget too!


Big Bazaar ensures their customers value added products while always adding a generous sprinkling of discounts and promotional offers. No doubt, a family will turn to the store to find the latest in toys, clothing and entertainment under this ever cordial and benevolent premise. 


The Kiddie Club stems from the idea that kids needed a platform to show case their talent and pursue their hobby through fun activities. Big Bazaar stores offer this carnival as an experience which is filled with creative, innovative games and competitions. 



What is more, the Kiddie Club offers its little members a #KiddieClubCard which allows them to collect points while shopping and indulging in rollicking pursuits of childhood. 

They have zipped up the excitement quotient by roping in the ChotaBheem Competition.


Yes! The little ones stand a chance to feature in a ChotaBheem TVC. All they need to do is send in a fun Selfie taken in the store to @big.bazaar on Twitter/Instagram. Besides, tons of events and action awaits in each store of Big Bazaar for the little ones. 


Dear Mommies and Daddies, 




Christmas is around and how much will Santa Claus do? Lending a helping hand to the old man will bring in smiles and grins for your little ones!

The Polite and Prompt staff shall be at your assistance. While you shop, your kids shall be so engaged in fun filled events, that they will not press you to hurry up your affairs anytime soon. Either they will be busy with My Heroes theme, Jungle Set up, RC RangeMy Mind (board games) and  fun-packed activities like mood board, ring toss, hopscotch, feed the joker, angry bird, golf ball throw or clicking photographs at the photo booth. 


You can shop to your heart's content while your energy bundle is channelized constructively. You'll be happy too!


Shopping will be no longer a chore for you or an experience that is tiring for your kids. 

Come, visit Big Bazaar Kids Carnivalthis festive month full of gifts and giveaways. Gift your little ones happiness and usher in the New Year with cheerful promises of fulfilling all the dreams your children may ever have!



Our children have only one childhood, embellish it with delight and squeals of joy. Bestow the perfect sigh of contentment onto your kids and also walk away content with super discounts and offer!

- SONNAL PARDIWALA

Thursday, December 15, 2016


Be Assertive &; Not Fearful When You Meet A Doctor! 

Medical conditions are a source of anxiety and uncertainty. Do be assertive with the treatment options that the doctor prescribes. Analyse how much is really needed and how much is being sold. Do not buy Fear! Here is how I learnt to decipher between what is necessary and what can be safely avoided.

Visiting a Doctor for my personal self has been the most daunting task. As a child, I did go occassionally to the local physician but all in all I was considered a robust child and not much in need for medication.One miscarriage and two deliveries later, it truly seemed an avoidable affair. Vaginal check-ups were the worst nightmarish moments (maybe for the doctor involved too as I raised a storm). I opened up to alternative worlds of Reiki, crystal healing and essential oils. I learned to invoke the power of Inner healing to deal with issues that arose and well
I was too busy to focus on myself! While I nursed my two kids from sneezes, sprains and stomach pains I did learn a lot about what role fear, food and positive thinking played in getting rocking fit.
What I have learned is to listen to what the body says, look closely at the symptoms to check what they say. It helps to overcome the initial anxiety that surrounds the uncertainty of not knowing what your body is going through,raise the alarm bells onlly when necessary and take ASSERTIVE DECISIONS WHEN NECESSARY
Take Back Your Power.
We have a tendency to never Question our Doctors. We believe everything they say and feel they have our best interests at Heart. After all we grew up on "Doctor's Word" By R.K. Narayan. But Let us not forget that it is our bodies we give to be examined and cured to them.Only we can tell what is working and what is not! If we keep silent and endure a Discomfort,it is a grave Dissservice to our bodies and our existence.
Take charge & Take Decisions.
What I share now is a simple illustration from my life. A decision that brought peace of mind to me and my family and saved my little one a lot of anxious moments in his entire childhood. Back in 2003 we came to know that my elder son had "idiopathic thrombocytopenia". Simply put it means his platelet count stays lower than required and it may lead to complications. Allopathy has no cure. The Doctor prescribed blood tests every month to monitor his platelet level. Each time he would be pricked his entire tiny arm would bulge black and blue.Reiki entered our lives giving us confidence to cope with this. Once sitting outside the cabin for his routine prick and test I read a statement "Least Intervention Is The Best Intervention". As I entered the Haematologist's cabin I asked after initial details were taken. 
MEDoctor, do we have to do this blood test every month?
Doctor: (frowns) How else shall we monitor his platelet count?
MESo if we come to know that his platelet count is low what medicine shall you prescribe?
DoctorWe cannot treat him till we have an instance of active bleeding!
MEHe is not bleeding just now and we come to know his count is low due to all the black spots on his body, now what?
DoctorWe wait...
We came out and took the priceless decision to not get him pricked. We plain walked away. He is 15 now and rocking. His platelet count, maybe, low {black spots-I hate them). 
We have been careful and introduced him to healthy living and positive outlook towards a certain condition.
Had he been making those endless rounds of the laboratories to check blood and urine he would have called it "illness" The psychological impact would definitely have been far more disastrous. 
But we never dared ask the Doctor ,"May we discontinue?" for we feared we may appear defiant!
Recently,I had a urine infection which told my inner self needed a dose of antibiotic. I follow my inner guidance and before the infection turned severe I decided to walk into a doctor's cabin. I was in for a jolly ride and few amusing revelations and this blog.
So here we go to this doctor's clinic where I delivered my second Baby in 2006. The assistant asks me for papers.I have none. Ten years!!! I realised it has been that long that I went to a doctor for consultation for my persoonal reason. Wow!!! So, I request her to make the papers anew as I needed help. The assistant took a long time to get in touch with the incharge who was away on a weekend. I had been unfortunate to be so healthy and had fallen sick on a Saturday! How atrocious!!! Never mind after an endless wait we thought we must check on another doctor, since this one is not available and the assistant will not make my papers without consulting the absent incharge.The question that I could never ask her.
"Are procedures important or people?" " Could you not make the papers?" Thank God I was not in an emergency.
No wonder Munnabhai MBBS made that classic scene!
We came to another one, who had been a very senior gynaecologist in our area. One hour's wait and I am taken in. The assistant says,"500 rupees." I give it. I describe my symptoms; burning sensations while passing urine, but clear. No pain whatsover anywhere. To my horror, she insists on a vaginal check up! Mentally "What? Why?"
But outwardly, I comply. My resistance must have been supremely visible to an experienced one like her. She asks for a urine test and show it to her the coming Monday.The medicine were not antibiotics, is what I make out. I promptly get that test done and find out within a few hours that it indeed was a regular UTI. I am sure she would have known. But well, diagnosis is always safer. She told me to come post Sunday. That itself tells me I am not in any major dire circumstance.
What I did not ask her? "Why the vaginal check up? Was it absolutely necessary?" (anyways she found nothing!)
So, I go the next Monday since I had to show her the report and get an antibiotic as the bacteria needed the support of a better medication to flush out. I sat for two hours before my number came. By then, I had googled what my urine test indicated, what I am likely to be prescribed and what I need to do next as precaution.
What happened next took the cake for me!!!
She looked at the urine test. Her assistant asks "200 rupees!"
I had just entered the cabin. At least let my consultation get through! Nevertheless, I comply. 
DocCome on up I have to do your check up!
ME: (taken aback) Why? I just have a Urine infection. There is nothing else in the report except bacteria and pus cells.
DocWe have to check you for 'cancer'. You are above 40 and you must take precautioons.
MEI do not wish to do a check up and I will consider the screening as you suggest if I feel the need.
DocAfter 5 YEARS if you get cancer do not come to tell me anything.
ME: (Adamant and silent but sure will not turn in to any internal check ups) I want to go to the wash room but there is no wash room here. 
Doc: Oh you can go home and come back! The assistant silently prescribes the discounted rate of the screening at another place. 
Doc: You are 40+ now and you must do this as we may come to know if you are prone to cancerious tendencies!
I thank them and walk away with the antibiotic prescription and a resolve to not visit her again.
The question I never could ask...
Dear Doctor, your prime job is to alleviate anxiety, fear and pain. Did you do that? You were busy selling me a screening which I may or may not need. It is my Body that I hand you over to heal and cure. Should you instill fear and anxiety in me? You knew through your experience that I had a simple UTI Which would clear easily. Then why did you not give me straight away? Should you inform me about my treatment options or should you insist because it is to your benefit to have more ladies screening this at the women's centre where you are apparently conducting these discounted tests? How many vulnerable women come to you afraid and uncertain to whom you send these implants...Fearful implants of an illness???
My test clearly as of today are normal and I am recovering steadily but the fear vibrations stayed at what could befall me in five years from now?I will nurture and heal my body and seek kinder guidance should I need one in the future but the fact remains...
A Doctor's job is to alleviate anxiety, fear and pain not implant it into healthier minds a thought and a reprimand...
"What if you get cancer five years from Now? Do not come and tell me then!"
I promise you I will not tell you anything! 

Additional Information:

1. Listen to your body. 2. Take all necessary precautions. 3. Do not buy fearful suggestions regarding medical conditions. 4. A healthy mind will cope with everything.

By SONNAL PARDIWALA

Friday, December 9, 2016

Calling In Your Soul Mate!




 "For that special one, my heart yearns..."

"When the dear one shall saunter into my life?"

"Flutters the fragile beat as the year turns!"

So expresses a young, single heart who has come into twenties and finds oneself  without a doting partner to hang on. So many doubts creep in and so many anxious thoughts about self-worth? Am I not attractive enough? Am I doing something wrong? When??? 

Funny enough these anxious states go on to become self-fulfilling prophecies. 

What I share is a complex card reading. Each card to be explored in depth with spiritual and psychological angles thrown in. Read with a free will and put into action the steps suggested here. Discard, if it does not resonate. 

We are changing beings with our thoughts and emotions constantly co-creating reality in which we live today. Every experience you draw is a manifestation of what you have thought until now. Which means with a free will we can begin to change a certain outcome a desired way. Tough work is required to nourish and discipline, yes in that order, to sustain a Dream Reality

Each word now reflects personal experience and Angelic Guidance and authority. This is going to be long, intense. If you are looking for a quick read... Choose something else. 

Calling In Your Soulmate


Apt card- for that is the very query we are here for. It is a thought and longing, which one is living with. The single-hood kind of is annoying...marring our joy. The first thing you ought to know is our blue print that we came with. Yes, before we are born we kinda have a review meet with our spirit world and check on our good and not so good deeds. 

We owe few... Few owe us! We choose our parents, siblings, colleagues, friends, our work titles, people we will meet and interact briefly or long term. Depending on that, we choose our Soul partners, our love interests. We choose if it will be hurt and pay relationship or last forever with roses and cakes. We even choose the timings of when our paths shall cross and how. 

Given this knowledge it explains why there are some folks constantly getting in and out of relationships, hurt and embittered. That is a lesson which is overlooked. 

In the same vein, we may have prioritized few other lessons before love can happily distract us. If you are thinking about it a lot, It's time! 

Pay Attention To The Red Flags.


Already in a relationship this card could mean different but assuming the partner has not gravitated to you, it means looking at your manifestation skills critically. Universe is a literal listener. What you affirm loud and clear, it takes seriously. I see many young ones, in order to sound modern, affirm the following: 

"Hey, it is cool to be Single!"

"We are better off without relationship pangs!" 

"I enjoy my freedom. Who wants limits being set on your freedom?"

Translated in Universal listening it says well that is what they want that is what they shall have.

If you truly value your single-hood, discussion ends there but do not send out confusing signals to poor Universal Intelligence. It follows your "Free Will" and respects your commands. Command wisely then Dear one. 

Relationship means merging your existence with another one mutually. It means accepting part of pains and hurt pangs of it. No relationship is above it. If at the first signs you are ready to show the other the 'door', well no person shall last long. Trouble is we are ready to work out our feelings with friends, colleagues or subordinates but special ones are put through harder grinds. 

This Could Be The One...


Chances are your special one has already walked in but you are unsure as he or she does not quite match up to your expectations or family approvals or societal values you live by. Your heart tugs but your mind pulls you in another direction. Time to use your God given 'Intuition' to sniff out if this person is your soul material.

Cut from the same Soul Cloth. Your heart will know! Feel yourself in the presence of this prospective one. Does your heart tug? A person offering you love and coy glances is already around! Maybe you met someone recently and things are about to get sweeter, Sinful. 

Do not quit just when things are about to change. A free will command can reverse a situation. Check who is already around who may share a potentially loving alliance. Your heart will know...and that brings us to a related aspect, The Obstacle Card. 

It Is Safe For You To Love.



The most powerful Affirmation of all time. It is likely we have closed doors and windows in order to shut foreign elements to invade our privacy. We have convinced people we are not in there and then wonder "Why is no one knocking?"

Our spiritual bodies and soul have a language beyond words and they are in eternal dance with the other. Ever noticed how we lean towards or move slightly away to express a like or dislike? Ever felt the prick when someone entered behind your back? Your Aura shook hands even before your brain and body did.

So this card comes to clearly tell you to spring clean all the blabber dash rubble you store. You say "A past liaison kind of put me off relationships!"  Hmmm...Did you like stop walking after spraining your leg or did you stop eating after a bad retch. Maybe that food but eating in entirety? 

Then why is love put through so many games, rules and restrictions?

You have huge work to do with yourself. 

At the spiritual level, soften up your aura and make it welcoming. No, no, do not get me wrong. Nobody is asking you to do the come hither ballet. Only a comfortable-with-self and accepting mode exudes a softer vibration. Follow the guidance of joining new set of activities or even random rendez-vous which does not make sense can be life turning. 

At a psychological level, get assertive to put trash where it belongs. Observe your own games you play in order to keep people at bay, specially the one who could be the one you share your life with.
What are you afraid of? 

A little anxiety is natural to leaving a comfort zone and entering a new one but is it debilitating enough to make you go stagnant?

Check if you hang out only and only with the same set of friends, same set of activities, same type of conversations. They are your signals where changes are needed. If you are strongly nestled in your circle of familiarity how will a New Era begin? Overhaul yourself from time to time like 'upgrade yourself

"Make Yourself Your Best Development Project!"


Think if you have to attract yourself, what will you do differently? 
This Card says volume to your inner zone. You are ready and now allow that new energy to come through. It is safe! All the alarms have rung...calamities have happened. You emerged pretty OK...Each time fear surfaces, train yourself to talk to the fear soothingly...If you had an abusive experience at 18, you are now 27 something. Coax the 18 year old that is trembling and reassure her or him that you will now take care of her or him. You are far better equipped!  

Fill your existence with love notes. Candles- pink and scented!  Invite love at the thought level without contradictory affirmations. If you have to word it differently "I am OK being single...!" to "While I enjoy my Space I would hand it over to a Special one who wins it over...


It matters how you carve your words on the canvas of manifestation. 

Next card sets bring forth work you have now.


Getting To Know Each Other & Healing Family Issues.


Assuming you have met someone recently it is time to merge with a different family dynamics while keeping yours too. Every family member brings with oneself power issues, manipulation tools, cheer specks and much more. So do you.

You as a child have formed your notions of what love constitutes, what is the power equation with regards to gender. Who is the toiler? Decision maker? You ought to be aware of your own fragile areas. The messages you received as a child also decides how you value yourself. Were you told you are lovable and coveted or were conditions put on receiving favors for being 'good', 'under control' 'less demanding'? 

All this affects as to how you view your self-worth. Dig deep into strategic family show-downs, strong patterns were forged. Check what residual effect they are having. Find methods to remedy it at whichever levels you are comfortable. Help is available at every corner. Be hopeful and ready. Guidance pours in every moment. If you need to forgive yourself or someone being hurtful but need to get closure, try this -

*Write a deep letter and let it go in a river or pond. 

*Sit across a chair and pour your heart out to the people concerned and state your aim and conclusion. If they are absent or too much to have around, imagine them sitting there. 

*Spiritually place a sugar bowl in your kitchen. Write the alienated person's name, your name and seek and give forgiveness. You say why? I did nothing wrong! TOO TRUE but the situation is resentful for both. Seek closure. Put water, dissolve the sugar and let the names go into a spring or kitchen sink. You will see a lessening of ill feelings in time. 




Now the positives-

*Express your Love. Make the effort. You say to whom?

To that special one who will soon materialize! Till then;

*Write down to the T" what qualities you may love in your special one. 

*Light pink candles and sit in the glow asking your soulmate to gravitate towards you. 

*Meet new people and affirm your readiness to be loved, pampered and cared for. 

*Believe in Miracles and they'll happen. 

*Call your Soulmate before going off to sleep. May sound silly but this is the best time to suggest your sub-conscious to attract that which is good and great for you. 

The only one who has been holding in the illusion of a trap when all you had to do was jump the low imaginary fence that was closing around you. It was your illusion all along that kept you stagnant. Look how brightly the sun shines.

A dream Girl or Knight arrives...maybe not on a cloud or a galloping horse...But with equal amount of games, equations, hopes and dynamics as you. 

Decision is yours!

Will you free yourself and allow love to work its Magic or choose to spend Sleepless nights alone?

Trust that you interact with and are in charge of your Destiny!
Patience, introspection, up-gradations of self will go a long way in bringing that which you Desire. 

You are in my prayers and may you attract a loving special one at the earliest...your Earliest. 

Lots of Love,

Sonnal Pardiwala.